Rewatched the divergent series recently, in the last movie there’s an exchange between two characters that goes roughly like this:
“If you only had enough to save one, would you choose a sick, dying old man or the young boy?”
“I wouldn’t choose”
“Oh good, now they’re both dead.”
Similarly, my partner - going through a divorce - was having a really rough time. Had some loud arguments with their now ex husband and got scrutiny from all of the neighbors for being so loud and emotional. Except for one, a woman who had been in his shoes and came over to offer emotional support, resources, and a friendship. That woman no doubt saved his life