If you are a teenager and you currently feel like you have failed at being a man/woman/heterosexual/whatever, then there is a 79.8% chance you are some form of LGBTQ. Stop beating yourself up and start exploring instead. You’ll be happy you did.
I’m not feeling that I have failed but that the whole model of gender and sexually are flawed. So, in my opinion, society has failed me.
honestly, as a 30 yo cishet man, fuck gender and sexuality. Do whatever the fuck makes you happy
Do NOT invite anyone into your home that you do not know. And do NOT save someone from eviction and have them live with you if you only barely know them.
I just went through six months of hell with two freeloading pieces of shit who never cleaned up after themselves and almost never lifted a finger to help in the house — all while getting free room and board, free food, etc.
My kid happened to be friends with a kid whose 64 year old mother (kid was adopted) got evicted and we knew them in passing for a good decade. We were the ONLY ones to help, despite them being a part of a church with hundreds of people.
I now know exactly why no one helped them, and know exactly why they were evicted.
Just don’t do it. It’s not worth the stress and the money.
Seconded.
I had a mate who didn’t speak with his parents, lost his job and left his partner.
Took him in, rent free for 6 months. Got him on his feet, he got a new job and 6 months later he left… With my 10 year relationship. And my cat (but to be fair my ex was a vet so it made sense that she took him)
I thought he was a friend.
How nice of him, he took the trash out as he left.
If you’re going to “chase your dreams,” it might be a good idea to first figure out whether they actually really are yours.
Also research the downside first. Some “dream jobs” are marketed that way for a reason.
Cleaning is a skill. Learn to like it young and never have a messy home.
And like all skills, will develop as you do it more and more. If you’re new to cleaning and you suck at it, don’t despair. Just keep trying.
Also, if you don’t have it in you or enough time in your day to do the right kind of cleaning, it’s better to do a half-assed clean today than none at all.
The best amount for me is five minutes, with a timer. When the timer goes off, I stop.
If you’re being hailed as a hero in the US and you aren’t a politician…
Run. Do not walk away, run. Society is absolving itself of caring for you after the inevitable sacrifice of your health and/or sanity.
