I think with a forced gender binary, any advantages are double sided: men are respected, but not allowed to show emotion; women are cared for, but infantilized; men earn more money, but can’t ask for help; women are trusted with children, but not computers; men get to go on adventures, but can’t back down from a fight.

Like, with other forms of bigotry, there’s a much clearer “winner,” but sexism fucks everyone. I don’t think it fucks everyone equally, but it does negatively impact everyone.

I’m an AFAB egg and I heavily relate to a lot of that. I come off some sort of way to people (I’m also 178 cm, but only 62kg, so I’m tall but not big, maybe that’s related), such that people don’t interrupt me, take credit for my ideas, mansplain to me… I actually experience very little in terms of individual (vs institutional) sexism, and I don’t know how to phrase that without it seeming like victim blaming. People don’t even catcall me anymore, but I may have just aged out of it

My husband sharpened a friend of mine’s meat cleaver for her. I knew I’d be seeing her at the library later, so I folded it inside cardboard and put it in a reusable shopping bag for her. At no point did I worry about anyone stopping me, and if they had, I would have expected them to believe me about what happened.

Everything went according to plan and I wouldn’t have thought anything of it, if my husband hadn’t been so surprised that I gave her the knife in public.

I do worry that this might have a “cried wolf” effect for victims of actual antisemitism.

I fucking LOVE dancing! I do contra, which is a very spinny partner dance (that means eye contact is useful against vertigo, so it’s harder for you and your partner if you don’t make it). My first time, they told us about the ear trick, which is just looking at their ear, to avoid discomfort while still providing a balance point.

Contra also got me more comfortable with physical touch from strangers, because it’s got very firm rules about how and when to touch, so there were no surprises. I 100% hyper focused on it, and people were only excited that a young person was showing so much interest. They also have a long history of gender neutral dances :)

My stepmom lived in one of the most liberal towns in Massachusetts, running a Montessori program before she and my Fox News watching dad got married. (We never actually talked about politics because they “had an agreement,” but I have to assume she was very liberal- probably not very left though)

She started voting republican after a few years :(

That’s why it shouldn’t be a legal requirement. If people hear that your parents mistreated you and still think poorly of you, that’s a person you don’t want in your life.

We’re social animals, we depend on others if we’re young, old, sick, or disabled. I don’t think it should be a legal requirement, but if people see you let your parents suffer, they probably won’t have a great opinion of you.

You don’t have to be suicidal to jump on a grenade

With severe burns, that won’t be true for likely several years, maybe never.

We’ve been seeing these signs for years, but what can we do about it? A world war could never be a surprise, because it requires significant worldwide tension.

I sometimes have medium length nails (3-5 mm past the fingertip), though I tend to just grow my own out, and I do it entirely for myself. I have a bunch of different kinds of nail polish and stencils for making cool patterns and it satisfies my inner elementary school librarian urge to dress up for even very minor holidays.

People have come up to me and told me that my nails are too long for them to find attractive, which is a bizarre non sequitur imo. I don’t know why the assumption is that any self-decoration is intended as a sexual signal: my ideal nail-based interaction is that a little kid asks about them and I get to tell them about Arbor Day or national soup day or something.

Sometimes they make life more difficult, and then I either find workarounds (opening pull tabs with a spoon, for example) or cut them, depending on how much time I have and how much I like my current nails.

I get that they’re not for everyone, but I like them, so I wear them. It’s okay if others don’t like them, they don’t have to wear them.

If it’s just general media within media, that Ben folds five ass crack bandit song was fucking killer

women love masculinity

The number of things that he’s inadvertently implying with this that would cause him am aneurysm is just delightful

It’s intentional

As someone getting a master’s degree in linguistics… yes.

Joking aside, he’s got a pretty good track record, he just goes big when he goes wrong.

So it’s more like ~35C, but it used to be 40? Is that because of constant heat exposure? Like, is my heat tolerance better in the winter?